Church
is not for everyone. Even for those who like it, there are as many distractions
as attractions to the spiritual life there. I thought of entitling this post
“spirituality for loners” because I want to suggest eight ways of experiencing
spiritual community outside of church!
Read. I enjoy the most
diverse, stimulating, informed, and wise spiritual community on my bookshelves!
Fiction and non-fiction, sacred and profane, fantasy and factual—you name it,
all connect me to other people, places, and things with whom and with which I
may feel a spiritual kinship. Newspaper and magazine human interest stories,
op-eds, obits, and news stories also open me to relationships often more spiritually
intimate than possible in ordinary life. All are opportunities for witnessing spirituality
at work for those who have eyes to see, fingers to feel Braille, or ears to
hear recorded versions.
Pray. Immediately, praying
puts us into a global and probably universal community of those lifting their hearts
and their loved ones and even unloved ones to God, the eternal, the sacred, knitting
our hearts with those with whom and for whom we pray. Prayer, meditation, and
reflection make us more attentive to those we care about or want to care about,
welcoming their presence in deeper ways.
Watch. Being mindful of
surroundings wherever we are with all of our senses puts us in community with
the material world. Matter matters. The touch of a fabric, the fragrance of a
plant, the sound of rain, the vibration of a machine, the breath of a lover, the view from your favorite chair or
mountain ridge—all remind us, in Madonna’s lyrics, that “we are material girls”
and boys. And watching films and documentaries can take us to people and places
and events we otherwise might never meet or visit or experience.
Walk and Roll. I was asked this week
what I would do if I knew I only had 24 hours to live. Promptly I replied, “I’d
go walk in the park.” A leisurely stroll or roll on foot or wheelchair through
parks, forests, beaches, neighborhoods, downtowns, and more give us an
opportunity to relax and be part of something greater than ourselves. An
acquaintance gave up city life and lights to work remotely in the countryside
just to be able to spend time gazing at the planets, stars, and galaxies each
night as earth strolls through the universe.
Communicate. Writing letters or
blogs, sketching or painting, playing instruments or sharing CD’s, making
videos or recordings, performing or cooking or phoning—finding ways to tell our
stories, proclaim our “gospel,” give our viewpoints, share our talents—these
are some of the diverse ways we may offer ourselves to spiritual community.
Volunteer or Vocation. Giving time, energy, talent,
money, and possessions for a cause,
concern, or a calling connects us to other volunteers or coworkers but
also to those for whom we do what we do, whether a movement, a non-profit, a
community in need, or the environment.
Receive. It may be more blessed
to give than receive, as Paul quoted Jesus in Acts, but being receptive is also
a gift to those who want to offer us something of themselves, from company to
caregiving. Gratitude “in all circumstances” may open us serendipitously to
community.
Breathe. Breathing slowly and
deeply and consciously is a common way to begin meditation. Spirit is in the
very air we breathe if we are paying attention, if we imagine it, if we believe
it. We take in the molecules ancestors breathed, brothers and sisters breathe,
posterity will breathe. Every breath connects us with them.
No
one should beat themselves up for not going to church, not joining a monastic
community, or not belonging to a religion or religious organization. Spiritual
community is to be discovered simply by attending to the spiritual life, that
which connects us to all.
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will be leading a free public workshop on Just Love entitled “Body Boundaries
and the Question of Consent” Saturday, April 27, 2013, from 10 a.m.-1:00 p.m.
(free lunch follows) at St. Francis Episcopal Church, Macon, Georgia. It will
explore the spiritual dimension of physical encounters.
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Totally "agree", meaning, "I see it the same way!"I like the way Richard Rohr gets to the same (similar", for he can not put it in identical language!)stating that in the stages of life, "church" is like educational schooling - grade, middle, high, college - but it can only takes us so far, and then life takes us to the stage (mid/latter) where we are in the "ring" with God, and that's for the two of us. At that stage, it's God an "me", "us". And the "ring" becomes the pursuit...for me, for us. Church has built the 'base" for us to get there, but then it drops away: its imperative meaningfulness diminishes.
ReplyDeleteNeat writing, as always - thank you so much, Chris!
PS: and yes, I'll breath: it's a doorway after all.
Thanks, Jose!
DeleteI understand... but respectfully disagree at http://sam-betweenhereandthere.blogspot.com/2013/04/spiritual-community.html
ReplyDeleteSam, I like your post and your blog! I don't disagree with your viewpoint, it's also true. Thanks for the balance!
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