There
are movies that I can watch again and again with pleasure because they conjure
up for me the “olden” times of my life. The
Birds and Guess Who’s Coming to
Dinner? take me back to a quaint California of the early 1960s, my native state.
To Kill a Mockingbird and The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter take me
back to books I enjoyed as a youth, and both were transformative, not only at
how I looked at race and disability, but how I viewed myself as an outsider.
Recently
I wanted to end a Sunday afternoon with such a movie, and I caught the last
half of A Summer Place on Turner
Classic Movies. It’s a peculiar story how I first happened to see the film. My occasionally
non-conformist mother and a colleague of hers served as tricksters at the rather
staid Christian school where they taught and which I attended, playing practical jokes on each other and
exchanging funny, mischievous notes.
He
suggested my parents and I—10 years old or so—join him to see Ben Hur at a drive-in movie theater. It
happened to be half of a double feature with A Summer Place, a movie my parents had reservations about seeing
themselves, let alone letting me see this film about lusty, illicit love. I
can’t remember if it was shown first, and we had to watch it, or if last, and
we stayed because we had already paid for it! (My parents, while generous, were
even more frugal than I am!) But we watched the entire double feature.
In
my book, As My Own Soul: The Blessing of Same-Gender Marriage, I wrote how, of all the Hollywood movies about Jesus,
I prefer Ben Hur, because the film
never shows Jesus directly, but rather, depicts how he affected people—which is
what I believe we have in Christian scriptures as well. I like this less
literal and more indirect way of portraying Jesus.
Obviously
it’s strange pairing this quasi-religious film with an incredibly secular film
about older star-crossed lovers who leave their disastrous marriages to marry,
and their teenage children who fall hopelessly in love, played by (to me,
adorable) Troy Donahue and (to me, lucky) Sandra Dee. (When he died in 2001, I
was saddened to learn that, after a serious bout with drugs and alcohol, his
“summer place” was New York’s Central Park, before getting sober and getting on
with his life.)
But
the double feature awakened the double feature of my own life. Yes, I liked
Jesus and things religious. And yes, I liked Troy Donahue, and things romantic.
Religious or romantic, love would eventually come to me spiritually and
sexually, thanks be to God!
Ever wonder why, after
teaching at Notre Dame, Yale and Harvard, prolific Christian author Henri
Nouwen spent the last ten years of his life as part of the L’Arche community,
built around people with disabilities? Come find out as I lead a weekend retreat
at Kirkridge May 2-4: “Henri Nouwen’s Road to L’Arche.”
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Briefly. At the time it seemed rather in-line with what looked to others as some "do it to stand out" but i remember trying to keep sexuality and spirituality together maybe more than they should be?? At any rate, until i allowed them to seem separate i did not "get on" so to speak in either sphere. I believe you have spoken to "compartmentalization" quite a lot, but i am not remembering specifically what you have said about applying it.
ReplyDeleteFor me, a spiritual goal (among others) is integrity, integrating all aspects of one's life, including sexuality and spirituality. It's hard to do when we've been taught they oppose one another, rather than complement one another.
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